When their “spiritual help” feels like a curse.

We’ve all been there: You’re in a season of waiting—a visa delay, a job hunt, a health journey, an adoption process or a door to finally swing open after you’ve knocked and knocked.

But in the midst of all this, there’s often another battle quietly brewing—one that feels less like spiritual warfare and more like emotional warfare:
The unsolicited spiritual solutions from overzealous believers in your life.

You know the ones.
The cousin who sends you a YouTube sermon link every week about “unlocking your destiny.”
It’s stressful enough… until Aunt Linda texts you again about the “prophetic pastor” who can “break spiritual chains” holding back your breakthrough.
The friend who, with deep concern in her eyes, whispers,

“I know a prophet. He prayed over my neighbour’s womb, and now she has twins. You should go.”

You know they mean well. But sometimes, their “help” feels like pressure wrapped in a Bible verse.
And their insistence feels more like judgment than love, It feels like they’re declaring you broken.

And honestly? It’s exhausting.

If you’re tired of well-meaning loved ones labelling your patience as a “spiritual warfare” issue, here’s how to reclaim your peace—without apologising for your boundaries.

When Help Starts to Hurt

Let’s be clear:
Faith can be a beautiful source of strength in times of waiting.
Prayer can be powerful.
But when someone tries to force their version of faith, their practices, or their spiritual leaders onto your situation, it crosses a line.

Because not everything is a spiritual blockage.
Not everything is a demon.
Sometimes it’s just life.
Sometimes it’s timing.
Sometimes it’s God saying “not yet,” and sometimes—it’s just the process.

But when your waiting season becomes everyone else’s spiritual project, it can leave you feeling ashamed, broken, or worse—like you’re the problem.

So how do you protect your peace without dishonouring their beliefs?

Here’s what I’ve learned:

1. You Can Be Grateful for Their Intentions—and Still Say No

You can say:

“Thank you for caring, but I’m not comfortable with that.”
Or
“I appreciate you thinking of me, but I’m already praying and trusting in my own way.”

You don’t owe anyone access to your personal battles.
Faith is not one-size-fits-all.

2. Set Clear Boundaries—Firmly, Not Harshly

Some people genuinely don’t realise they’re being invasive. Others are just used to overstepping.

You might need to say:

“I’d prefer not to receive any more spiritual recommendations right now. I’m focusing on staying mentally and emotionally balanced.”

Boundaries aren’t rebellion. They’re self-respect.

3. Trust Yourself to Discern

You are allowed to question advice—even if it comes wrapped in scripture.
Not every “man of God” someone recommends is for you.
Not every spiritual practice is aligned with your values.
Don’t feel guilty for not chasing every oil, prophecy, or prayer line someone suggests.

4. Reclaim Your Spiritual Autonomy

Let your waiting season be your sacred space.
Pray the way that grounds you.
Worship the way that restores you.
Don’t let anyone turn your season into a spectacle.

Because honestly?
Sometimes the loudest voices claiming to “help you spiritually” are actually sowing doubt, fear, and confusion.

5. Not Every Delay Is a Curse

This needs to be shouted from the rooftops:
Delay is not always denial.
And it’s definitely not always demonic.
Sometimes it’s divine development.

You’re not being punished.
You’re not blocked.
You’re simply becoming.

Final Word:

To anyone drowning in spiritual advice they never asked for:
You’re not crazy.
You’re not cursed.
And you don’t need to perform spirituality for anyone’s comfort.

Protect your peace.
Honour your path.
And remember—God sees you.
He’s not waiting for someone else to pray harder for you.
He’s already walking with you.

Even in the silence.